"I'm a maaaaaan!"

--I don't smell my dinner cooking

I've ranted about this before, back in my Myspace blogging days, but, I just read a post in a forum of one site I frequently visit, and the gist of the post, was basically this:

"If a man has to call the police on his 110lb girlfriend because he cant hold his own, he's a b****."

Of course it was a female saying this.  A lot of women have this, pre-thought out vision of what a "man" is.  It comes down to being a matter of opinion, but women are quick to pull the "man" card, when they're dealing with a guy that doesn't fit their "man" mold OR they pull the "man" card, to tug at a guy's nerves in an attempt to get their way (probably gonna rephrase this).  What makes a man a man?  I'll tell you.

A "real man" always has a job, and whatever that job is, his paycheck is always higher than a woman's..no matter what she does.  A real man goes to the bar, club in hand, whacks a lady over the head and calls her his wife, drags her home, has unprotected sex with her multiple times, goes to sleep, and goes to work.  A real man ALLOWS his wife to stay home and tend to the children, he comes home after a hard day, fixes the car, takes out the garbage, puts in a few new light bulbs, builds a mountain in the backyard, gets into an argument over chicken with his wife, she swings at him, he uppercuts her Mortal Kombat style....goes to bed, repeat process.

Unfortunately, there are a lot of people, male and female, who still believe that is what it takes to be a real man.  I'm old fashioned, I wouldn't mind having a wife who stays home and tends to the children while I bring home the bacon, but at the same time, if she wanted to work, I would support her, but according to this Man book, I'm supposed to smack her in the head and tell her to focus on the roast beef and not a career.

But back to the women bashing

Its women like, the person quoted above, is the reason why a lot of women, especially black women get a bad rap and the black women wonder why black men date outside their race.  This pre-thought out stubborn opinion on what a man should do for them and how a man should be, it gets high praises and support from their peers, to a point where they all start to feel the same way and they all begin to believe they aren't wrong for feeling that way, and some day, they'll find that "man."  It turns into a situation where, they have a REAL man, and they kick him while he's down, he tries to do his best, yet trying isn't good enough, because she's convinced she shouldn't be "taking care" of a grown a** man.  There are good days, days when she can tolerate her man not being a "man", until she starts talking to, Bonnie, Robin and Crystal, and they rave about how their "man" did such n' such, then she comes home and begins fussing at her trying man, for no apparent reason.  One characteristic about some females views of a "real man", usually consists of the "man" having the freedom to do whatever he wants as long as he is taking care of her financially.  So what if he cheats on her?, so what if he abuses her?, he's a man...thats what he's supposed to do apparently.

I believe any male who stands by himself regardless of what anyone says, is a man.  And by that I mean, a real man wont stand for a woman, telling him what she thinks a man is, and making him 2nd guess himself on his views/beliefs as far as how to live his life, dreams, and goals, or making him do things he doesn't like or wont stand for.  If a man doesn't know how to change the light bulbs, change the oil in the car, build a house from the ground up, or tie a tie, that doesn't make him less of man, but if that same man can be loyal to his wife, support her, and love her unconditionally, and he stands by that, he recognizes her flaws and accepts them, and is dedicated to working as hard as he can to make it work, whether that consists of him getting a better job to bring more to the table financially or omitting certain daily activities and using that time to help her...how does that, not equate into the "being a man" fantasy that a lot of women have?

Ultimately, men and women need to be more open minded and understanding of one another.  Stop trying to fit the square peg into the circle shape.

Peace and mo Old Navy Fleece--

Karma....its all in your mind

"What goes around, comes around"

Karma
[kahr-muh]
Hinduism, Buddhism . action, seen as bringing upon one self inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation.


I just wanted to share my opinion on Karma, this wont be long


Karma, to me, only exists in the mind.  I think a lot of people believe it works in a way like, God saw you steal that cookie from the cookie jar, so when you walk outside, you're gonna trip over a rock and fall, or, if you get cheated on by your mate, someone is going to do them, the way they did you.  Which, most of the time, is true, but, I believe, its all in our heads.


If someone does something, unconsciously, lets say, it's a dude who cheats on his girlfriend, he's not intentionally doing it, he's not thinking before he does it, he just, does it.  Now the girl, is all, "you had sex with my sister! get out of my house!" lol, she immediately runs to her Twitter and tweets "Karma's a b****!!"  Time passes, this dude end's up changing his ways, he wants to be a good guy, but he's getting done wrong by females.  On his spare time or whatever, he thinks about all the chicks he's done wrong, NOW being conscience of what he has done, he now feels like what he's going through is karma for all of what he's done to all these other females.  


Now let's change that scenario, he's still trying to be a good guy, changing his ways, but isn't having good luck with the ladies.  When he gets his spare time to think, he thinks about all the women he has done wrong n' such, BUT instead, he says something along the lines of "man, that was fun times" and goes on about his day.  See where I'm coming from?  Karma seems to only exist when we aren't exactly having the best time in our current position in life, so we start to think back and think just maybe, you did something to someone in your life that could have caused this.....I happen to believe I was an evil man in my former life.

'Merica, "Dumb" Athletes, Celebrities, Society

Before you read this post, take a couple seconds to read my inspiration for this rant.  Most importantly, read the comments at the bottom of the page, starting with the "Highest Rated".

http://sports.yahoo.com/nfl/news;_ylt=AliUbwXJsZ7MF75n8ZkyJmQ5nYcB?slug=ap-steelers-mendenhall

Absurdury! (that is so not a word, but you know what I mean)

Why do people continue to hold: athletes, celebrities, and entertainers to this extremely high standard as if they aren't human?  How can you expect someone to act the way you would if you were in their position when that person isn't you and you know nothing about them?  Is it because you're self-conscience of your terrible parenting skills, so you want Roger Goddell (NFL Commissioner), David Stern (NBA Commissioner) and Hollywood to keep these people off of your TV because they might say something that will have a negative effect on your child because they look up to them instead of you?  After reading comments like "This is why athletes shouldn't tweet" and something along the lines of: the health issues in football (concussions) are making players dumber, I was pretty fed up and slightly irritated (ok, REALLY irritated).  In case you didnt read the article, the situation at hand is, Osama Bin Laden (man accused of being responsible for any terrorist acts toward America, most notably, 9/11) is dead, shot and killed by an elite team sent in with an elite plan, to elitely remove this dude from the planet and solve all of America's problems.  Anywho.  Since the news broke, there have been a numerous amount of reactions, ranging from an entire crowd at an MLB baseball game, chanting "U.S.A!!, U.S.A!!" to random bloggers and tweeters agreeing and disagreeing over celebrating the death of a human being. 

I personally feel it isn't necessary, especially being a black man, yes, this can be, will be, and is a racial thing.  MOST black people don't have the same concerns when going to work as MOST white people, Will Smith was criticized for saying 9/11 had no effect on black people in the way it did white people, that was the same conclusion I came to.  I don't want to get too far off track, so I wont get too deep into that, but, I was awakened by my electricity being turned back on around 5:30pm (eastern) today.  I slightly rolled over and reached for my remote and proceeded to turn to ESPN, one of my favorite shows was on, 'Pardon The Interruption'.  Apparently I turned to it just in time to hear about the reactions Mr. Mendenhall is getting for voicing his opinion.  I couldn't believe it, I cant believe, in this great country, home of the "free", this man is being so harshly criticized for saying how he, and a lot of other people feel, but this is 'Merica, where one persons opinion MUST trump the other persons opinion until the most patriotic opinion is said to be the truth.  In this situation, Mr. Mendenhall probably would be the world's most popular athlete if he had said "I'm so glad Osama is no longer living on this Earth, the world can, and will be a better place, I'm looking forward to seeing his body, float/burn away."  That's the patriotic opinion that is the "right" answer to this situation.  Why?  Majority rules.

Dear 'Merica:

I know its tough to live such a life, where you're forced to believe what you're told because you don't have any common sense, you continue to have faith in the "justice" system because it has never failed you, and you demand the people your children idolize and you are envious of to be perfect.  I feel your pain, as much money as they make, they should ONLY say what you'd say in their situation.  Wait.  Is this about money?  are you mad that you don't get to paid millions/thousands of dollars to do what most people consider to be a hobby?  Exactly what is your issue with a sports figure, entertainer, actor/actress saying how they feel?.....Well?..

This will always be an issue in this country, along with our arrogance, and bullying.  We put people on pedestals and have the nerve to get upset and demand apologies from this individual for living their life as if it had any effect on our lives. (see. Tiger Woods)  We praise celebrities for accomplishing things we couldn't, making us feel better about our lives or at least giving us hope, and giving our children someone to look up to, we do all of this without even stepping back and realizing how bad our own s*** stinks.  Until those of us who worship these celebrities in such a way that they cant be human, things like this will continue.  One other comment I read, that got several thumbs up, "You can take him off the list of role models."  Reminded me of a line I heard when watching Spiderman 2, after Spiderman decided to give up being Spiderman, "...I have a daughter who looked up to this guy, now who is she supposed to look up to?"

Peace and mo Old Navy Fleece